Are you dating or even married to a partner about whom you still wonder: “Am I with the right one? Am I crazy to be hanging in there so long? Or should I stick around so we can continue to work on ourselves, through this relationship?”

Do you enjoy certain aspects of your partner but others drive you crazy? Do you feel that the two of you are just not on the same level in some ways (perhaps spiritually or in terms of personal growth, ability to communicate in a healthy way and “own” your stuff…)? Or do you sense that you are outgrowing him or her, or growing apart? Have you been waiting for years for your partner to fully commit?

The truth is, if you are reading this, you probably already know what you need to know. Your heart has been telling you for some time “There must be more to love than this…” Most people are in the wrong relationship, at the wrong time, for the wrong reasons. It is far too easy to fall in love when we fall in bed. Infatuation, lust, neediness, fear, projection and even brain chemicals (similar to those related to addiction and obsessive disorder) make us believe anyone can be a soulmate… for a while. Then we wake up and see who we're really with. Uh-oh.

But knowing “OK, I just don't think this is it,” and having the self-love and courage to walk away and be willing to be alone for however long it takes, the forgiveness to let go so your heart is healthy enough to love again when the time is right, the compassion and wisdom so you learn what you needed to from this connection, so you cocreate something even better next time…. Well, those are two separate things. Is it time to let go? Do you need help doing so? Or getting clear? Or can the “us” still be saved? Is there enough of an us?

Can Our Relationship Still Be Saved?
In some cases, a relationship on life support can be resuscitated. Most people come to couples counseling too late, too much damage has already been done. But if you and your partner still love each other and want it to work, couples counseling may make the difference. What this usually takes is a) both partners are committed to giving it at least one more real chance, doing whatever it takes within reason to improve the relationship; b) you have to try something new, for example, some counseling, energy healing, couples retreat or other supportive resource, because obviously what you have done so far hasn't worked; c) your hearts still need to be open enough, connected enough, to give it a fair try. (No one is so wounded, angry or betrayed that the trust is just gone.)

There is a time window here, a period during which a relationship that was good and is now weak can be saved, the bridge across your hearts can still be rebuilt. If you have already passed beyond that turning point, your heart will tell you so, and in that case, it's time to let go with grace and forgiveness.

Also, relationship healing can only work if you are with a person who has integrity and if your relationship was once really good, and both people still hope it can succeed. You will need to act quickly if you are both willing to do this.

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If your partner refuses to even go to counseling or coaching, or if you are pretty clear that it's over and you just need some clearing and healing, perhaps some guidance for how to do so in the best way, and how to turn your wounds into wisdom, click here for Relationship Coaching for individuals.

How Can I Let Go, Find Myself, and Love Again?
Individual Coaching for Conscious Relationship is for you:
If you are frustrated with your unsatisfying patterns in relationship, if you feel like your radar is off and you attract the wrong kind of people, over and over again, I can help you clear out the energetic and subconscious patterns and beliefs that have been sabotaging your success in love. Through intuitive reading, spiritual clearing, chakra balancing and conscious relationship coaching, you will break free of old patterns, get clear about what you really desire and deserve. You will tap into your inner strength and reconnect with Spirit so you realize, deep down, that you are never alone and you love yourself and life, no matter who is loving you or how. You can let go of what does not work in order to allow God (your loving Universe) to open a door to something much better, starting with getting your own self back!

Unhealthy relationships are an incredible energy drain. You know what I'm talking about. As they say in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, “It takes a damn good relationship to be better than no relationship at all.” You deserve a truly healthy, harmonious and sacred partnership. If you have been settling for less just to settle down, sign up for either an intuitive reading or, even better, relationship coaching (which includes the intuitive and energetic work and helps you move forward).

You deserve true partnership, a loving relationship that is full of compassion and passion, spiritual and harmonious. Love yourself enough to take an action step that can bring higher love into your heart and into your life!